Enough defending ABDL bigots

It’s 2019, there is no excuse anymore to be ignorant about us calling us pedophiles. So someone makes a post on social media calling us pedophiles and other ABDLs fight back and defend themselves against the accusation and we get scolded for “harassment.” I’m sorry but anyone who wishes to defend ABDL bigots are just as bad as them and you also are not better than they are and I will just block you too on social media for endorsing such behavior.

Telling someone they are wrong is not harassment.
Telling them to STFU isn’t harassment, be bigot, get treated like one.
Telling them “Okay boomer” isn’t harassment.
Asking them where is their proof of us being pedophiles is not harassment.

If you make hateful posts against a group, do not expect any kindness and yes you will get hostile responses too because you insulted a whole group of people and anyone who scolds us for defending ourselves, you are just as bad as they are and throwing your community under the bus. Do not expect people to not respond when you choose to make a hateful post. And do not hide behind the “everyone has their own opinion and not everyone agrees with us” BS. You wouldn’t be saying the same about racism and homophobia and transphobia, etc. If someone made a hateful post against race or LGBT or disability, I doubt you would be scolding them for defending themselves and not blame them for their hostile responses.

Seriously, if someone is genuinely confused, they would be asking “How is ABDL/babyfur/DDLG not pedophilia?” and we will gladly explain and not jump all over them. That would be a sign of them being open minded and wanting to learn. Someone who calls us pedophiles is not open minded and don’t care to learn. They will keep finding justification to hate us. They are not worthy of our time and respect. The moment someone calls us pedophiles is the moment they lose all my respect for them and I have no empathy for them so anything that comes with it, they made their bed, go lie in it and anyone who wants to defend these bigots are just as bad and you are throwing us under the bus when you do this.

Stabbed in the heart

More Twitter rant here.

If you have been following my blog for 7 years, you probably know I hate passive aggression. I think I have also mentioned I also have anxiety.

Last night on Twitter, someone posted about how hard 4th of July is for them because of their PTSD. I asked about ear plugs and noise cancelling headphones.

I don’t get a response but I do get several likes so I assume everything is fine.

But today in early noon, I find a post by this person about PTSD and it’s about fireworks. I read it and realized the whole post was about me but it was guised as a general post and as awareness. She also had it tagged as ableism. I checked her profile and saw she had unfollowed me. I felt stabbed because instead of telling me why that solution wouldn’t work, she decided to make that post instead and made me out to be some bigot. First of all, she never said fireworks were illegal where she is. I also know people with PTSD that do stay inside and put on thick headphones and listen to music or watch TV. I was trying to be helpful and supportive and this is what I get? It just makes me not want to talk to people if I am going to be reminded what a horrible person I am because of my social skills. Once someone gets offended by me, I cease interaction with them. I don’t know what else will offend them so I just drop them. I unfollowed her since I would no longer interact and I blocked her too not too long later.

I talked to my husband about it so he would know why I was in a bad mood. Interent stuff again because I had offended someone by mistake and instead of telling me what I said wrong, she had to be passive aggressive about it and unfollow me. I am not going to get offended if you tell me what I do wrong if you aren’t salty about it or mean about it or have some attitude and aren’t passive aggressive about it.

My husband thinks I did nothing wrong and it’s her problem and not mine. I was just trying to be helpful and she took it wrong. I am trying to forget about it and my husband said he doesn’t care when he offends people and it happens to him too. He will never see them again. I decided to forget her and he said “yeah forget her, you will never meet her.”

Maybe I did nothing wrong. How am I supposed to know since other PTSD people have used that stuff, even autistic people use them too for in public to avoid sensory overload. I dont think I have seen any of them scream “ableism” whenever someone suggested noise cancelling headphones. But she decided to take my question and turn it into something else.

I don’t normally block people on twitter but this time I did because she had stabbed me and I didn’t want to deal with her if she sees my rant on there too.

My anxiety just makes me not want to talk to people because I could offend them with my social skills and then they will block me or ignore me because of something I said and it makes me feel terrible. Then when I finally get myself out there, something like this happens and I am reminded again why I have anxiety and reminded how bad I am at socializing. I have messed up a lot and been singled out and rejected. I have also been stabbed in the back too. Now it just makes me angry so I have the “fuck you” attitude. So sick of this bullshit.

Edit 7/5/19

After getting support on Adisc, Heidi, my friend from Daily Diapers, my husband, I have come to realize this was not a social and communication issue on my end and it was just the other person with the problem. I still think I made the right choice in blocking her. I wouldn’t have realized I did nothing wrong if it weren’t for me posting about it. Some people really do suck.

Bambinos failing me

Twice, Classicos have been leaking on me. They did that last time too on my last batch. This is so disappointing. Either the design is now bad and the company has gotten cheap or my hip size has shrunk too much they are now too big. I am now down to 34 inches and the diapers are supposed to fit 32-40 waist/hip size. I always go by hip size because my waist size is smaller than my hips. Part of being a woman. I now need to invest in some plastic pants again and may need to get smaller sizes this time because I am not using cloth. I took them out of the plastic bags in the basement and they were all dirty so I washed them in the tub and hung them to dry. I actually rinsed them. I would only use them on diapers that fail me that are supposed to hold well. Mediums is the smallest size the company carries. They used to carry smalls but they stopped because of not enough demand and I am not going to put on weight again just so Bambinos will work with me. I do try to make them tight and now the tabs are pretty close together. They feel like a large now.

I had to come home and change my pants and I put on a pair of plastic pants that weren’t dirty and I put on a clean pair of pants. I did measure my thighs and legs and decided to go for 21 inches. That will help me figure out the size and I should measure my hips again with the diaper on to see what size to get.

The most idiotic comment I have seen in a long time

I saw a comment on Daily Diapers and I am not going to bother to name the thread or say who it is but it was the most stupidest comment ever someone wrote. I just couldn’t be bothered to respond because I felt they won’t listen anyway. Jerry was one of them. But the person who wrote that anyone who sexualizes things that are associated with babies and toddlers should stay away from them. What?

I told that person just because people are into paraphilic infantilism does not mean they get turned on by babies and toddlers.  I also wrote put it this way, lot of people are turned on by males and females but they are not sexually attracted to kids and underage teens and their age would be a turn off for us. But yet they still had their ignoramus view. Thinking I suppress it. What? What am I suppressing? That is like saying I suppress my sexuality for other women. There is nothing to suppress if there is no sexual attraction. I am not sexually attracted to kids in diapers or babies or toddlers. It does nothing for me. I still have a little one in diapers and her being in them does nothing for me. What they wrote was very offensive, accusing me of being sexually attracted and suppressing it.

There is nothing sexy about a underage person wearing them. What they wrote was borderline implying we are all pedophiles, those who are into this sexually, and that reminded me of Jerry about his attitude about AB/DLs and I hate all those people with that thought. Even though he saw nothing sexy about it, he still saw it sexually or else he wouldn’t have felt so negative about it and calling us all pedophiles and saying he feels he is with a baby but then again I think he was over compensating because he felt so negative about it so he projected and acted that way about it.

That. person. Is. An. Idiot.

Ugh, targeted again

I don’t know why is it that some people want to target me. Even autistic people are not immune to this behavior.

I have been singled out on Wrongplanet as well and treated bad there according to some members. I am glad I was not aware of it then but saw then it was okay for others to post weird threads in the adult discussion board but whenever I did, I always got a negative reaction. I sure learned then they are not immune to “NT behavior” I thought then but now I think it’s just human behavior. They are not immune to such behavior. I dealt with it in elementary school as well and have dealt with it from other individuals on the spectrum so it was like elementary school all over again. I no longer do NT bashing like I used to. I quit doing that at age 22.

Now on ADISC, someone is accusing me of doing damage to the disabled community including those with Asprger’s despite that I have dealt with it myself and anxiety and the depression. Why would someone with a disability want to target others with a disability and do whatever the man is accusing me of doing? Hence his post is not making sense. Also I was not the only one who said about people using it as an excuse and even ASD people in the thread were saying the same thing and yet this one person only targets me acting like I am the only one doing it. So I asked him why is he even targeting me and I am not the only one who has said about using it as an excuse so why not go after them too. He is acing like he never read my other posts nor others in the thread.

Sometimes I think there is something about me that makes some people want to single me out or target me. Sometimes I don’t take it personal if I see them doing it to others because then it means it was just random, not that they were specifically targeting me and it was just a coincidence.

 

Update:

I noticed the person had posted again but in another thread and he did not respond to my post in the thread where he claimed i was doing damage to the disabled community. I notice people never admit to what they are doing when you call them out on them targeting you. I feel relieved he is leaving me alone. I wish all kids did when I was growing up. Just back off and leave me be. That was what I wanted too. But instead they would keep on harassing me until I would snap and hit them or shove them and be the one in trouble. The adults didn’t care if I was being bothered. Plus we have laws about harassment and shouldn’t they have been teaching them it’s unacceptable? That is what being a kid is all about, learning about the real world and getting prepared for it. I would have probably been charged with assault if I were an adult. I wonder if that was their intent when they punished me but all it did was it taught me “I am different and deserve to be treated like crap. I am to let other kids bug me and take the crap because I am Beth and god put me here so everyone has someone to pick on and I am not allowed to defend myself.” Yeah no wonder I was depressed and hated myself and wished I was normal. I remember I even wanted to kill myself because I didn’t like it at all and I nearly got hospitalized for it once when I said I was going to do it. Then my mom decided all I needed was love and attention than being locked away so my dad took me home before I was checked in.

I did go away on a trip so maybe this has something to do with it. I wasn’t there for him to bother me and if he notices me on the forum again, I hope he will still leave me alone even if he doesn’t say why he picked me. I was curious before why he was doing it but now I don’t care. Drama is in the past and over with. It’s funny how someone can sound like a nice person and make great posts but then they all of a sudden target you. It’s like they change personality all of a sudden. I remember as a kid, kids would be mean to me but be nice to other kids. My mom said they were just mean kids. Some people are selective about their victims while some may do it to everyone. I am less concerned about a person doing their crap to everyone than to me only. Then there are some people out there who are selective about who they are nice to and I knew a boy like that in my neighborhood. Even he would be nice to me on occasion and that was the only time I ever liked him. but it was always confusing why he would be nice to me and my therapist in high school helped me figure it out. It was because he had no one to play with and everyone was doing other things and I was alone so he played with me and he had to be nice to me to play with me so he got what he wanted and it had to be nice to me to get it and that was playing with me. Then when he didn’t need me, he was back to normal again.

But hey, that is probably why people leave forums when they get bullied or get picked on, it gets them away from the drama and then they come back and everyone has moved on by then and have no interest in continuing the drama where they left off. I have done it before a few times and I hear lot of people do this. So the vacation made me take a break from the place and I went back and there was no continue drama. I wasn’t even on planning to continue it even if he did respond because it would have been over a week ago or something. Maybe sooner since it took him about a week to respond to my post the first time after he did once and deleted it before I saw it so I figured he probably took back what he said and maybe misread and deleted it before I could see it but then decided to respond again a week later and left it this time. Just weird.

Another update: I noticed he was on my friends list and I was puzzled about it. I didn’t bother removing him as a friend because I couldn’t be arsed to do it because I didn’t feel like it and would later when I get around to it. Days past and I keep forgetting and then I finally see him again in a thread and thought “finally, I can do it now” so I go to his profile and it says “add as a friend” and I go to my profile and go to friends and view my friends list so sure enough he wasn’t even listed. I figured he must have removed me before I did and I thought “good. At least he is leaving me alone and I don’t have to worry about him.” I barely see him on the board anyway. But this is some strange situation. There will be things I will never understand about people.

Feel like giving up

I like to write, I really do but I lose interest if people lose interest in my writing or if I don’t get any comments like other people do with their stories. It makes me feel like I am going to have a meltdown, yes over lack of comments. It hurts to see someone else get comments on their story and their main character is autistic and gets badly bullied in school while my own character has some form of it or something similar to it and she also got bullied and my story is written better than that story and bam I only get comments from lurkers while the other person gets comments from forum members who contribute to the forum and comments on stories too. Then I have it posted on dailydiapers too and only got seldom comments while other people get comments from other readers to their stories and I get none from them. It makes me think my stories are not their taste, no one cares, they are not into it so it makes me not want to share my work. Only thing that makes me keep on posting is if at least one person is enjoying it. What I don’t understand is how my thread can be hot due to so many views but have no comments from other readers except one. Why is it I only attract lurkers but not forum members who contribute to the board?

I posted a new story this month and it was a short one and I only got one comment and it had regression in it this time and daddy and little girl and the character is over 18 and I made it sexual this time and still lack of interest from members. I think I will delete it at the end of this month if no one still shows no interest. I may also delete my Incontinent Natalie story too when I get done with it and it will only be on my forum. I think that is where all my future stories will go. That way if anyone is ever interested in my work, I can link them to that board. Only people who show an interest is my online friends because they get curious and I ask them for their feedback.

Why create work and post it and get no feedback from other readers?That is just going to end in disappointment and then you feel you have wasted your time. Lot of authors feel this way and so do artists and musicians. Yeah I know we should all do it for ourselves, if we enjoy it, don’t stop.yeah do that but don’t bother showing your work to the whole world if you barely get any feedback. That will just get you very upset and disappointed.

Update: My online friend from Ohio decided to comment on my story to help make me feel better. I also got another comment on my other story from a newbie who likes daddy/little girl stories. Then yesterday someone else commented on IC Natalie giving me a compliment. So in return I decided to read his story and leave a comment as well. I looked at his history and saw he has written House Rules and I enjoyed it and I saw he used the same theme for his new story, forced diapering and humiliation and getting into deeper trouble with it. Sometimes the types people write do tell me about the author.

Asexualphobics

I have never been into sex the same way as everyone else nor have I never been into it a lot. I don’t need lot of it and I can live without it. People have never accepted this about me and have treated me like I am broken because they shove it in my face and tell me things like I need to find ways to enjoy it or find what turns me on and on Dailydiapers someone suggests it may be hormonal level and general physical and psychological health. Ugh. People like this piss me off so I put him on ignore. What is it with rude posts lately people have been posting to me? Okay he has been the second person now this month. But what is happening here?

I didn’t start to desire sex or get into it until I was 19 and yes men online told me then I would never find someone if I don’t like it or do lot of the icky things I call it. They would also give me a hard time about it and try and shove it in my face. I only like penis in vaginas. The rest just grosses me out and I have tried anus sex and I don’t like it, accept it people. It’s uncomfortable. I have tried doggy style, I don’t like it, accept it people. I also never tolerated wet and sticky skin from sweat and I never like people touching me none sexually if they have sweat on them. I don’t like how it feels so therefore it bothers me during sex too so my husband and I wear clothes during sex, accept it people (may be sensory related). I never liked porn with sex in it. My mom is the same way about sex. She doesn’t want to hear about it or talk about it or see it but she does have it with my father. I don’t know how often and I don’t know what they do during it, I have never asked and never will because it’s not my business.

I am 28 and I still feel the same way about sex as I did when I was younger. It hasn’t changed. I am not broken and I don’t need to be fixed so shut up.

I am not sure what to call it when people are intolerant towards people who are like me about sex, oh gray-a. That is what I am so gray-a phobics they are. But even asexuals get lot of flak too and also get treated like they are broken. My husband doesn’t understand either. :sigh:

I posted links on the forum about gray-a’s and asexuals for awareness. Homosexuals used to be treated like they are broken and some have even gone into counseling for it thinking they can be fixed but they have come a long ways to be accepted but unfortunately homophobia still exists. I think asexuals still have long ways to go and people like me. Maybe some day they will be accepted too but of course asexualphobia and gray-aphobia will still exist like homophobia still does.

EDIT: I found out there is already a word for it, acephobic.