Minors in kinks, it’s a relative thing to say.
Everyone has their own standards on what it means to have minors in kinks.
Someone may say they don’t involve them in it but then you see they don’t match your term of minors in kinks so you may assume they have lied.
Surely when people say “no minors in kinks” and “they should not be in kinks,” hopefully they do not mean they cannot explore them or act on it. How many of us started wearing diapers again as kids or teens? How many of us were going to the forums and reading? How many of us were reading ABDL stories as minors?
Are ABDLs really saying that minors should not be wearing diapers until they turn 18?
No, they should not go online and try and look for a daddy. If you see such an ad, report it. No they should not be doing ABDL pages, if you see it, report it.
Perhaps there should be a page for minors to understand ABDL better, actually there is, it’s called http://understanding.infantilism.org/. It’s a very old page and this was around back when I was in high school. It’s dated August 1995 so I can assume that is when it went up. It has never been updated, the layout is still the same. It has never expired or went off the site so obviously the owner is still paying for their domain. This is the closest resource for minors to get to for support. This page has been around back when I was still in elementary school before my school decided to get internet. I can remember it would take around 5 minutes to load a page and you needed dial up, only businesses had DSL because it didn’t require a phone hook up to use the internet in school.
I am sure there are other places that have information about infantilism and what it means.
On Twitter, someone posted a video of them with their baby sibling and people did not take it so well. They saw it as her involving minors in her kink when it was both totally separate. Obviously her sharing her baby sibling, she did not see it as involving minors in her kink because it was a vanilla post she made. She had no idea how people would see it and how they would react so she removed the videos and apologized. It did create Twitter drama. Now she has troubles doing premium content on her page because of her siblings making noise in the house and she never knows how people will take that if she posted those videos even if they were not in her room. They could see it as minors being involved. She doesn’t know how weird people will act about it.
On another website I used to go on that is now defunct, you could not have any photos of you in your profile if there were minors in the background or even if they were scribbled out. It was seen as involving them even though the photo is vanilla and not ABDL related. That is how weird people get about minors in kinks.
I have seen ABDLs get weird about ABDLs sharing their story about their history of being a ABDL because it goes back to when they were a minor and they were telling their story as a minor all the way till they were an adult. They see it as minors being involved in kinks even though they were talking about themselves. I don’t think it’s Fetlife itself that is weird about it, it’s the users on it that is or else there would be no Kinky Parents group or other ABDL groups where they talk about their childhood.
I wonder what else would be considered involving minors in kinks? Some see taking dirty diapers out of public trash cans as involving them because they’re baby diapers. To them doing it, they might just see it as a diaper.
Some see as writing fictional ABDL stories with minor characters in them as involving them. I normally skip those stories now because I find them boring. I say if you want to do it, be creative, have the story be about something else than diapers. Look at Rugrats, they are in diapers but they’re babies. There has been ABDL theme in it like when Angelica regresses on her 3rd birthday but decided being a baby is no fun and she wants to grow up so she jumps out of the playpen and breaks the pinata. Or when Stu got hit in the head and got amnesia and regressed into a baby. I doubt the company is ABDL but if an ABDL did it too with their stories, it should also be fine because there would be no difference between a vanilla and a ABDL doing it.
What does it mean for me for involving minors in kinks? I would say it would mean the person decides to put diapers on kids for non medical reasons. They also decided to have kids change their diapers or they go online and seek out minors in ABDL and start talking to them about ABDLism or they talk about their diapers to minors online and direct them to their ABDL pages. That is involving them.
There was a time when someone decided to have her kids take care of her as a baby. They were changing her diapers and stuff and then someone found out and called CPS and they were taken. That was involving them. I think I have talked about this here in my blog before. A friend told me about it.
If you walked up to a child and showed them your diaper intentionally and made sure they would notice it, that is involving them.
What it means to involve minors in kinks is relative. Because people have their own terms on what things means means I don’t understand what they are even saying when they say it unless they mention the specifics. Someone involves minors in kinks, okay, define it, what do they do that involves them? I want to see their page, their profile, their posts so I can see what you mean by they involve them. I won’t blindly believe your word. I want to be sure we are on the same page here.
And of course there are ABDLs who are Jerry about it so they will get weird over minor things when there are no minors involved there. “Oh, I just noticed a baby picture in the background, you are involving your kink, I’m gonna block you now.” If that happens, good riddance I will say because it means I have one less idiot to interact with.
I guess I have to always investigate first when I hear about someone involving kinks in minors to be sure they aren’t Jerrying lol.
But if a parent decides to discuss ABDL with their child, I don’t see how that is any different than a parent discussing regular sex with them when they have questions. If a kid is ABDL and they have questions about ABDL, talk to them about it. No one should be discussing sexual fetishes with minors, that is the parents’ job or their guardian, same as for sex.