Minors in Kinks, what does it mean?

Minors in kinks, it’s a relative thing to say.

Everyone has their own standards on what it means to have minors in kinks.

Someone may say they don’t involve them in it but then you see they don’t match your term of minors in kinks so you may assume they have lied.

Surely when people say “no minors in kinks” and “they should not be in kinks,” hopefully they do not mean they cannot explore them or act on it. How many of us started wearing diapers again as kids or teens? How many of us were going to the forums and reading? How many of us were reading ABDL stories as minors?

Are ABDLs really saying that minors should not be wearing diapers until they turn 18?

No, they should not go online and try and look for a daddy. If you see such an ad, report it. No they should not be doing ABDL pages, if you see it, report it.

Perhaps there should be a page for minors to understand ABDL better, actually there is, it’s called http://understanding.infantilism.org/. It’s a very old page and this was around back when I was in high school. It’s dated August 1995 so I can assume that is when it went up. It has never been updated, the layout is still the same. It has never expired or went off the site so obviously the owner is still paying for their domain. This is the closest resource for minors to get to for support. This page has been around back when I was still in elementary school before my school decided to get internet. I can remember it would take around 5 minutes to load a page and you needed dial up, only businesses had DSL because it didn’t require a phone hook up to use the internet in school.

I am sure there are other places that have information about infantilism and what it means.

On Twitter, someone posted a video of them with their baby sibling and people did not take it so well. They saw it as her involving minors in her kink when it was both totally separate. Obviously her sharing her baby sibling, she did not see it as involving minors in her kink because it was a vanilla post she made. She had no idea how people would see it and how they would react so she removed the videos and apologized. It did create Twitter drama. Now she has troubles doing premium content on her page because of her siblings making noise in the house and she never knows how people will take that if she posted those videos even if they were not in her room. They could see it as minors being involved. She doesn’t know how weird people will act about it.

On another website I used to go on that is now defunct, you could not have any photos of you in your profile if there were minors in the background or even if they were scribbled out. It was seen as involving them even though the photo is vanilla and not ABDL related. That is how weird people get about minors in kinks.

I have seen ABDLs get weird about ABDLs sharing their story about their history of being a ABDL because it goes back to when they were a minor and they were telling their story as a minor all the way till they were an adult. They see it as minors being involved in kinks even though they were talking about themselves. I don’t think it’s Fetlife itself that is weird about it, it’s the users on it that is or else there would be no Kinky Parents group or other ABDL groups where they talk about their childhood.

I wonder what else would be considered involving minors in kinks? Some see taking dirty diapers out of public trash cans as involving them because they’re baby diapers. To them doing it, they might just see it as a diaper.

Some see as writing fictional ABDL stories with minor characters in them as involving them. I normally skip those stories now because I find them boring. I say if you want to do it, be creative, have the story be about something else than diapers. Look at Rugrats, they are in diapers but they’re babies. There has been ABDL theme in it like when Angelica regresses on her 3rd birthday but decided being a baby is no fun and she wants to grow up so she jumps out of the playpen and breaks the pinata. Or when Stu got hit in the head and got amnesia and regressed into a baby. I doubt the company is ABDL but if an ABDL did it too with their stories, it should also be fine because there would be no difference between a vanilla and a ABDL doing it.

What does it mean for me for involving minors in kinks? I would say it would mean the person decides to put diapers on kids for non medical reasons. They also decided to have kids change their diapers or they go online and seek out minors in ABDL and start talking to them about ABDLism or they talk about their diapers to minors online and direct them to their ABDL pages. That is involving them.

There was a time when someone decided to have her kids take care of her as a baby. They were changing her diapers and stuff and then someone found out and called CPS and they were taken. That was involving them. I think I have talked about this here in my blog before. A friend told me about it.

If you walked up to a child and showed them your diaper intentionally and made sure they would notice it, that is involving them.

What it means to involve minors in kinks is relative. Because people have their own terms on what things means means I don’t understand what they are even saying when they say it unless they mention the specifics. Someone involves minors in kinks, okay, define it, what do they do that involves them? I want to see their page, their profile, their posts so I can see what you mean by they involve them. I won’t blindly believe your word. I want to be sure we are on the same page here.

And of course there are ABDLs who are Jerry about it so they will get weird over minor things when there are no minors involved there. “Oh, I just noticed a baby picture in the background, you are involving your kink, I’m gonna block you now.” If that happens, good riddance I will say because it means I have one less idiot to interact with.

I guess I have to always investigate first when I hear about someone involving kinks in minors to be sure they aren’t Jerrying lol.

But if a parent decides to discuss ABDL with their child, I don’t see how that is any different than a parent discussing regular sex with them when they have questions. If a kid is ABDL and they have questions about ABDL, talk to them about it. No one should be discussing sexual fetishes with minors, that is the parents’ job or their guardian, same as for sex.

The labels “little” and “littlespace.”

These are words I have often heard in the ABDL community. It means they act like kids and have emotions of them and when they get into littlespace, they are doing childish things. Supposedly this is a kink. But people with it say this isn’t a kink so why the term “little?” Why apply this word to yourself if none of this is sexual?

My rant is ABDLs who have kids have to ask how they can get into little space or something when they have a kid around, especially a toddler.

To me, this is ridiculous this even has to be asked. It’s called being a parent. There is no difference between a ABDL and a vanilla playing with their child. No one would call it little space if a vanilla plays with their kid so why call it that as an ABDL?

Now, I am not the label police so I am not going to be telling people what they can and can’t call themselves because:

“But you are autistic, you shouldn’t be calling yourself a little because are you being immature on purpose and role playing when you stim and have meltdowns?”

“But you have anxiety, you shouldn’t call yourself a little because are you faking your emotions when you have panic attacks and act immature when you are upset?”

“But you are child like, you can’t call yourself a little because are you having childish interests on purpose? Are you role playing when you watch Rugrats?”

“But you are a parent, you can’t call yourself a little or else you are role playing when you are spending time with your kids. That is so pedophilia.”

See? People can label themselves a little all they want, that is their choice. Let them deal with the consequences because little implies kink and kink implies choice and that is something you can control and turn on and off just because people might be too stupid to tell the difference and see them as them but instead they see everything about them as ABDL no matter how vanilla they are being.

That is why I do not call myself a little, I also do not call my interests littlespace. To me, that would be insulting to call it a kink. If I play with my kids, I would not call it role playing because it would be very insulting just like it would be insulting to call me a little because my happiness was too immature and too childlike. No, I am not role playing you dolt. Little implies role play.

It screams Jerryism when anyone tries to say this is a kink and you are being a pedophile or borderline pedo when you suggest you can do fun activities with your kids like cook, watch TV with them, play with them, cook together, and someone calls it involving them in your kinks.

People are free to label themselves a little all they like and call it their littlespace all they like while I choose to not use these labels on myself. Maybe Jerry had something to do with it so it’s too triggering. There is a reason why age regressers or why people with ASDs may not want any kinksters following them, especially littles and other ABDLs because they do not want their disability and their persoanlity, their emotions, etc. to be sexualized and be accused of doing “their kinks” 24/7 because people would be confused and assume they are also kinsters because of who is following them. They don’t want to deal with any Jerries or get any Jerry comments.

If someone who is child like wants to call themselves a little, that is their choice. I won’t tell them they can’t call themselves that or else they could deal with Jerries out there because they would see everything they do as ABDL and not see them as them. Same as for the word age play. I wouldn’t call it age play if a parent gets on the ground with their 3 year old and starts playing with them and building forts with them and going in there. But if they decided to call it age play, they are opening themselves to judgment because age play implies kink, sexual.

It’s very hard for me to apply any kink labels to myself other than ABDL. Pacifiers are a choice and so are AB nurseries and AB clothing. They are not a personality. But, I would not call someone an AB if they had to sleep in a crib for medical reasons. If that were me, I might have also have a hard time applying ABDL to myself if I had to wear diapers, needed a caretaker and always needing assistance for feeding and bathing, getting dressed, etc.

Like I say ABDL implies kink and kink implies choice so if someone needs care assistance and needs to be in a crib and they are incontinent, I would not label them as an AB but however, it would be up to them if they want to call themselves ABDL. That is their label, I won’t tell them they can’t call themselves that or else they are implying they do all these things on purpose and are just gaming the system so they can live their AB life. Anyone who would make that assumption about them because of the ABDL label is an idiot. I am smart enough to not be a Jerry about it by calling them pedos or saying they are putting their kinks in front of their caregiver and other kids that come to the home to visit.

It’s funny how my ex was able to separate all these things but couldn’t do it with me which makes me think my ex did it on purpose. If I were not into ABDL, I don’t think this would have happened.

So that is why I refuse to call anything of mine little space or even call myself a little. I am child like and childlike is not a kink, it’s a personality.

My advice to parents out there who have kids and wondering how they can do littlespace, drop the “littlespace” label if you are concerned. If you have a toddler, drop that label and just call it parenting. It’s not littlespace, it’s called being a parent and playing with your kid, you are not role playing, you are being a parent. Now your problem has been solved, no more worries. This is not a kink, it’s being a parent. Anyone who calls it pedophilia just because you are a little and go into littlespace is an idiot and being a Jerry because they are forgetting this is what normal parents do except they don’t call it littlespace. So that is why I will tell you, drop that label if you are that concerned. You can use that label again when your kid is old enough and has outgrown the playtime you like to do. There is no difference between vanilla parents and ABDL parents, just the label.

Call yourself whatever you want, it’s your label.

God’s way

I am not a religious person, I am in fact an atheist. That means I don’t believe there is a god and he is a made up story tale like Santa Claus and I also don’t believe in religion.

But some people use religion to cope with the unknown or use it to cope with bad situations or to deal with grief. Even religion seems to be common in death row inmates because they live every day in their cell not knowing if someone will come up to them and tell them their death warrant had been signed and they are scheduled to be executed. They have no idea if they will even be alive the following year either. Some terminally ill patients may even use religion to deal with their upcoming death and their family members and their partner.

Lets pretend I am indeed religious. I lost my Onlyfans page so I decide to use religion. This is how I would deal with the unknown, my grief over losing my revenue. This was god’s way of telling me I was taking myself for granted and not giving myself enough credit for my content because I was being too cheap by charging everyone 5 bucks and then only 3 bucks. for a subscription. Most creators charge a lot more than that and charge very low when they want to make more money so they get more subscribers and make more sales. I don’t believe in greed, I don’t believe in money grubbing. I believe in going out and getting a job and work and gigs are just gigs. It makes sense to charge a lot if it costs you supplies to make it, plus shipping and all that. But I am only shooting videos and photos and that costs me nothing. I have been called a socialist. To me if I am getting plenty of money to live comfortably, I don’t need to ask for more. Most businesses will go “gimme gimme gimme, more, more, more” even though they were making plenty of money already, enough to pay their employers and enough to pay to maintain their buildings and lot of people will complain about businesses being greedy. If Netflix decided to add in some extra charges like you now have to rent movies on their stream service, you bet that will cause lot of backlash and that will give them loss in revenue because people would be cancelling their subscription. That is what greed can do.

Nintendo jumped on the bandwagon to start charging people to play online and lot of people were pissed. They used to not charge and then decided to. But luckily they are cheap about it. But it is still greed. Reminds me in a Bearenstein bears episode where Brother and Sister bear had figured out how the system worked. They wanted to buy these jackets but Momma and Pappa Bear would not buy them for them and suggested they earn them. So Brother and Sister did exactly what they wanted, they started to find ways to earn money but they turned to greed. Instead of just doing things for others and helping, they were now charging everyone for their time. The episode basically showed a flaw in capitalism. This is basically what businesses do because of capitalism. It’s all about making profit than about people. So Momma and Pappa Bear were mad at their cubs than realizing how messed up the system is and being proud of them figuring out how the system works. But I don’t think capitalism is the problem, it’s people. Mama Bear and Papa Bear certainly didn’t like it how their kids jumped onto that level.

But anyway, I moved onto other platform, I now have Patreon, Manyvids account, have a shop on scatshop. This was god’s way of trying to make me charge more for my content because of capitalism and he didn’t like me being a socialist. Now I am having problems getting another video uploaded and I wonder if this is his way of saying, “you need to charge more for your videos, no more $9.99. Go higher.” Or maybe it’s his way of telling me, “Don’t make videos doing something outside your interest for revenue, keep making diaper change videos.” After writing this part, the video got approved after I used a still photo as a featured photo than a GIF.

Without using religion, I had tremendous anxiety when I lost my Onlyfans page because of the unknown. I didn’t know if someone had falsely reported my page, do I have an enemy, was it someone from K***farms or 8**.net or *chan. I had no idea if someone would try and shut me down again on other websites. This is why people sometimes turn to religion to cope with the unknown. Without god, you are having worries and paranoid thoughts because of a situation you had no control over and you can’t get answers. I have no idea if other people get very stressed out and also have anxiety when they lose their account randomly without warning. I was never given an email when it shut down and I had to email them to ask what was going on and I was only given a general answer, no reason given. Then the rest of my messages were ignored and then I was eventually blocked from their site. I might have been a computer that did it and since they won’t bother to look at it, that is why their customer service sucks.

I haven’t used the toilet since last summer

It’s been going very well. It’s not too hard to mess my diapers and my body is still on a timer for when not to mess because it seems to know when I am out in public with people around which is good. But I am still dealing with the urges and then it comes out when I am alone.

I was once at Gamestop when the urge hit but I didn’t mess my diaper until I got home and another time when I went to a play with my son for his field trip, the urge slightly hit but it came and went. Then finally back at school I was waiting in my car when the urge got very strong so I messed my diaper. This stuff is normal for me.

So it’s just all been diapers, no toilets. I still have my Red Bulls and that also makes me mess and I notice if I do a couple days without, I get massive head aches and I also don’t poop either unless I have caffiene. With the outbreak now, I have been drinking more diet pop and more Crystal Light to substitute for Red Bulls because our state went into quarantine. Now only essential places are open and you can only leave the house for essential reasons and we can still go out for walks or go to hiking trails. I think that is stupid because those places are always crowded. Everyone wants to do something out of the house so they go out to places where there are no people but, here is the thing. Everyone has the same idea so hiking trails have been crowded, even beaches are crowded that some of the towns had to shut down their resorts and hotels and RV and campsites to kick out tourists. Plus they told them to leave or get arrested.

Another thing about this outbreak is my family was struggling with toilet paper because we ran out and I had to bring some home from work from the restrooms I cleaned. They were just used rolls that had been replaced with new rolls. My parents could not find any toilet paper and this was not something I thought about because I wear diapers and don’t use toilet paper. But then I heard about shortage on wipes so I had to run to the store and get a case before they were all gone. But all the cases were gone so all they had left were single packs or small packs so I grabbed 3 packs of wipes, the cheapest, and went home. That should last me a few months because it takes me a while to go through a whole case of wipes. Plus I had to go on Amazon to order another tub of 16 oz Desitin because I saw there was also a shortage on rash cream and I was running low on mine. That also lasts me a while too.

Getting toilet paper has become getting a new gaming system because people now have to leave early and wait in line for toilet paper and stores have each pack limited 1 per customer. My dad had to get up early and go to Albertsons at 7am and get a pack and it cost him $24 because he had to get the expensive ones because they barely had any and he picked up the first one he saw. I don’t even have to worry about any of this but my family does because they don’t wear diapers.

I also got a Tykables subscription and every 3 months I will cancel and them resume when I run low of diapers. My last Tykables case lasted me two months because their diapers hold so much I can go from day one to day 2 without a change and then I need a clean diaper, not because it will leak but because it starts to smell. Unless I mess, then I will need a new diaper sooner. But because they ship every 28 days, I will be having lot of diapers so I would need to cancel my subscription and then resume it or else I will get buried in diapers and pretty soon our house will look like a hoarder house with diapers because I don’t use them fast enough. I use the base subscription because I don’t need all 6000 ml diapers.

I still have bladder control in case you’re wondering. I still am aware of my bowels. I’m pretty sure everyone in the household is aware I am toilet free because I never use the toilet and I am only in the bathroom when I shower or brush my teeth or clean them.