Sometimes we hear crazy things in the community about ABDLism. I think we get so paranoid, we start to make shit up. I remember when I was 17, I was convinced you would be fired if they found out you were wearing a diaper. I believed this as a young adult too so when I decided to go 24/7 at age of 21, I only wore Goodnites to work. Yes I would leak there from time to time and it was pretty obvious and no one said anything about it. They had to have noticed but didn’t say a word. Then I moved to another state and get a new job two months later and I wear real diapers there and decided “they won’t know I didn’t wear them before so I can wear them now and they won’t know.” Then I quit 24/7 because I wanted to keep my bladder strong and I read online that feeling the need to go more often was a sign of losing bladder control. Now I think that was just some made up shit there. But I never could wear a real diaper to work again because how could I explain why I wasn’t wearing a diaper anymore and then was again?
I had an online friend say when I was 17 years of age that if anyone fired him for wearing a diaper, he would sue them. Even other people were telling me I can’t get fired for wearing a diaper, I could be incontinent. Even one person tried talking me into wearing 24/7 at 17 years of age and told me people would just think I am incontinent if they realized I had one on. But back then it was not possible due to my diaper phobic mother and because I didn’t have a job and I didn’t make enough allowance to wear diapers 24/7 and I couldn’t buy online so all I had were Wal Mart and the local grocery store. My dad was more liberal about it then because he said I was old enough to make my own decisions and it was probably just a phase and I would grow out of it. Then he said it was probably their fault because they let me wear them as a toddler and didn’t think it was a big deal. They knew I liked wearing them then and didn’t find it a big deal. I was only two and had plenty of time for me to be out of diapers and because I was special needs, they were still able to enroll me into daycare at age 3 unless that daycare took older kids in diapers.
Even my mom had made stuff up about it when I was in 6th grade. Told me none of this was real and people post make believe on the internet, told me I would also lose bladder control if I wore diapers, no one would want to share a dorm with me because they wouldn’t want to smell any diapers. No one would want to marry me either or hire me because of the smelly diapers. My life would be going backwards. Congratulations Mom, I have believed for many years you didn’t like incontinent people because no one would want to deal with the smelly diapers and telling me you wouldn’t have married my father if he wore diapers. I just thought for many years you would not like incontinent people because of their smelly diapers. I had to find out at 17 that was all a big lie and if incontinent people still got married and had kids and went to college, then you can wear diapers and still live a normal life. I am pretty sure mom had told me that lie to get me to stop liking diapers and congratulations, it worked, I put it in a chest and buried it under crap. Now I had lived in denial for 5 years and thought I could get myself to not like them but I was back on ABDL sites again at age 14 and I just couldn’t stay away from that stuff. I did go to DPF at age 13 and then stopped going thinking I could stop liking it. I guess you could call this my own version of the binge and purge cycle. But I slowly unburied that chest from the crap I had buried it under and slowly opened it and I would say it was officially opened when I realized I am a diaper lover and admitted I like diapers and want to wear them. No more lying to myself and pretending. I had been pretending all these years and lying about it to me.
Now fast forward to when I am 22, my mom is so happy I am not wearing 24/7 anymore and tells me I can’t wear them when I am pregnant because then they won’t fit me. I tell her you get bigger sized diapers then as your belly gets too big for the size you wear. Then she told me wearing diapers hurts the baby and the infection will go up your vagina and infect the baby. I knew this was an obvious lie or how else do you explain incontinent women having kids. Had they endangered their fetus? I think she was at it again with her tale to scare me. I wore them in both pregnancies and both babies were fine.
Another tale she told me when my son was an infant was me wearing diapers would be so bad for him and would affect him and I knew that was a bunch of baloney or else kids would be affected by their parents incontinence. I have even been told online by other ABDLs that I better be saving money for a therapist because I will need it for my kids and that my kid is aggressive because I am wearing diapers. More lies there.
More tales I have heard in this community is if you don’t potty train your children, CPS will come and take them away. I told my mom this at age of 28 when I was pregnant with my daughter and she told me “how are they going to prove you are not potty training your children, some kids are later than others, you were hard to potty train and couldn’t get you out of them until you saw what your brother looked like and saw his messy diaper. I bet someone made that up on the internet to scare diaper lovers to potty train their kids.” I must say I fell for this tale.
Another crazy thing I heard on ADISC from someone is how you can’t work certain jobs with diapers like you can’t work around food. I thought that was baloney and there is someone on Dailydiapers that works as a chef and he is incontinent due to his obesity. I don’t think he posts there anymore because I haven’t seen any posts about his weight issues or his job as a chef and his son having to help him with his shoes and his wife having to help him into a clean diaper. I remember him saying his diapers were a size of a pillow.
Now another crazy thing I hear from time to time is having to prove your medical need for you to wear diapers. One of them is if you are working with small children and I think that is ludicrous. Diapers are medical, why do they need someone to prove they are not ABDL just because they wear a diaper? What about women who wear pull ups or pads because of childbirth or due to aging and now they leak urine or don’t always make it to the bathroom? Do they now have to rush to make an appointment and tell their doctor about their bladder leakage just so they can put it in their computer system and print it out and hand it to them?
I recently got into a argument about this with an online friend and now I don’t want to speak to him because he pissed me off AGAIN. Now unless someone walks into work wearing an AB outfit or obviously dressed up like a little and is obviously padded, then that would be another story. They have made it very obvious they are bringing their kink to work and engaging in it than leaving it at home. Go to work wearing your normal clothes and diaper underneath, no one is going to know and even if they do find out you wear a diaper, they are not going to care. It’s not like you were obviously padded or wearing a bunch of diapers making them thick and noticeable. That stays home. But anyway, there is a blog on Tumblr by someone who goes by the name of Sereh and she wants to be a preschool teacher and has completely unpotty trained herself and lied to the doctors about having bladder problems so it can get documented in the system so she can prove her medical need for diapers for her teaching job. Talk about paranoid she is so she had to make up a tale to her doctors and my online friend believes this is true what they do to incontinent people and actually endorses it and thinks this is all okay and not ableism because he doesn’t think ABDLs should be around small children. So incontinent people have to prove they are not a ABDL, what about if they were a ABDL too? Now can they not work with them either? I mean what’s next, having to prove your medical need for taking medication so you can prove you are not a druggie? What about taking insulin or an inhaler? Are they going to make you have medical proof for those too? I see diapers as no different because they are a medical device.
Another shit that gets made up, ABDLs engage in their kink by working with small children and are guising it as a job. What’s next, people who are into nurse fetish engaging in their nursing kink when they work as an actual nurse at the hospital? Or what about school teacher or school girl? What about furries working with animals and in a pet store?
What other crazy tales have you heard about all this?