There was some recent blacklash on Twitter and someone getting blocked for arguing that ABDL isn’t a fetish. But yet that person still has not provided any source showing where medical professionals are saying this isn’t a kink. Even I have gotten into an argument with this person about it on Dailydiapers and I remember seeing her getting into an argument about it on Fetlife with other users.
This is something that keeps popping up in the ABDL community from time to time about rather ABDL is a kink or a sexual fetish or just a interest and a personality thing and some out there will keep comparing this to being gay or trans because this is part of their expression and identity but I think there is confusion here.
When people say ABDL is not like being gay or trans, they are not talking about age regressers or those who are a kid at heart or anyone who is child like and likes kid shows and Legos or any toys. Also doing these things does not necessarily make you a ABDL. So I don’t feel threatened when I hear this. Only Jerrys call all this ABDL and that is what makes them an idiot.
If anyone feels threatened with “your kink is not like being gay or trans” I would think they are insecured about themselves because they think they are being seuxalized because of their interests or what they wear. I used to have an online friend who was so insecured about himself, he was stalking my posts online and would call me on the phone or message me whenever he saw a post written by me he didn’t like. He could not tell the difference between a disability and ABDL or between having emotions of a child and being ABDL or being child like and ABDL. I mean he didn’t even call himself ABDL and said he wasn’t one so why was he getting all bent out of shape when I wrote that lot of ABDLs had a problem with Heidi Lynn because she would be an AB in public making us all look bad. Then he started comparing it to himself and I was like “dude, you said you aren’t even an AB so why are you so offended by it?” Then of course when she died, all of a sudden, she was the most respected person in the community instead of a creep despite there being backlash about her life before her death. And my online friend was even misgendering her and using her dead name and I asked him to stop and his attitude was like “Whatever.” I am sure he did it out if ignorance and didn’t realize she was trans or didn’t realize you have to respect pronouns and use the name they go by. He did this with few of my other posts too I can’t remember but it was all ABDL related and it was annoying each time because he would always take them out of context and always saw it as an attack on his personality when he wasn’t even ABDL because he was so insecured about himself. He thought people were going to think bad of him out in public if they see him when in fact no one goes around and thinks someone is an AB for wearing a men’s size Sesame Street t shirt. I saw saw one at target last week in the men’s section. But I don’t talk to him anymore and glad.
Guess what, no one is going to look at you if you are wearing a Sponegbob shirt and think you are a ABDL. No one is going to call it a kink if you are at Build a Bear and looking around and getting your animal stuffed and picking out an outfit for it and registering it and giving it a fake bath. Unless you are obviously dressed up as an AB and obviously padded where it’s impossible to not notice and you are carrying a pacifier and talking baby talk to your partner and referring them as “mommy” or “daddy” that is not okay and that is what they are talking about when they say “your kink is not like being trans or gay.” But if you are just wearing regular clothes with characters on them and you have some padding and you aren’t carrying a pacifier and not calling your partner mommy or daddy and not throwing fake fits, I don’t think anyone is going to have a problem with it. You’re still being yourself but in a appropriate way and that is not what anyone is talking about when they say “your kink is not like being trans or gay.” If people notice some padding, they will just think you are incontinent and that is okay. But most people are not going to notice it because they are not paying attention.
Perhaps adult baby isn’t the right term for you to use on yourself to refer to your child like interests and what regular clothing you wear you would find at Wal Mart or JCPenney and for what TV shows you watch and what toys you collect if this is part of your personality and you aren’t doing it to role play but you don’t do any of the baby stuff but wear diapers. I am not saying you shouldn’t put that label on yourself, anyone is free to use whatever label they want since there is no criteria for ABDL. But if you do, you are going to get offended (just like my old online friend) when you keep hearing “ABDL is not like being trans or gay” or just grow a thicker skin and learn the fricken’ difference. Not everyone in the ABDL community considers themselves a ABDL for this reason.
I also don’t think being child like is the same as age play because age play is also a kink, being child like is not, same as having a child like personality and liking kid stuff, not a kink.
So calm down people.
Edit: Fuck, just noticed I had accidentally misgendered Heidi so I fixed it. Damn brain fart. Luckily I only did it once so I had missed that mistake before posting this, my apologies.