This is a controversial topic and I can see both sides to it. I wouldn’t want someone faking a disability to get services or handouts or have someone purposely do it to themselves to get it. But on the other hand there are people out there who do feel they are born with the wrong body so they feel incomplete with a complete working body. Just like how some people feel they are born with the wrong gender so they feel uncomfortable with their own bodies like how people do who have body identity disorder. I feel this is a real thing and it’s no different than being transgender. But it’s easier to accept transgender because they don’t need any hand outs or services. Men and women are both equal and get the same rights, rights to vote, rights to work, rights to own a house and drive, rights to sick leave and family leave act. But being disabled, you have limitations and no one wants to pay for someone to sit at home and do nothing or not work. Even people with disabilities get disgusted that someone would want to make themselves blind or deaf or have a missing leg or arm or hand or even want a mental condition or a mental illness. But if someone wants incontinence, I think that is easier to accept because it’s not really a disability since there are no services for them and they don’t need hand outs so it won’t really affect anyone but if our country decided to just easily cover diapers for people who are incontinent and give them good brands to wear so they can live comfortably with their condition and not be stuck with crappy diapers because they can’t afford premium brand, then people will start taking issues with people who want to be incontinent because no one would want to pay for their diapers for something they chose to have.
But I do say if someone wants to be disabled so they live like they are, I say to each their own just as long as they are not effecting anyone such as taking hand outs, and using the handicap parking spot. If they are still employed because their “disability” doesn’t stop them from working that job, then no harm done. So if they want their leg cut off or their arm and they can still do their job, to each their own, they are not hurting anyone. If someone wants to be deaf but can pay for their own hearing aides, to each their own.
I remember when I was a kid, I thought hearing aides, wheelchairs, crutches, and other things certain kids used were cool so I thought they were lucky to have those devices. I used to play with Amanda’s crutches when I was six and seven and I could do things with them she couldn’t even do and I thought her desk was cool and wished I could use it the following year but at age eight she was no longer in my class so when she was next door, her desk went with her. I also thought powered wheelchairs were cool and I used to see a girl ride around in it when I was five but back then I didn’t know any better because I didn’t know these kids couldn’t walk and I didn’t understand their legs did not work. I just thought they had them because they could and it was a special rule they were given and I was a boring dull person so I had nothing special I could have other kids didn’t had. But then I grew out of this when I realized. When I was in 5th grade I understood why this boy named Chris could use a laptop all the time and he did all his work on it. He could not write due to his disability but he could read and spell so he could push buttons to type and he had an aide with him. I did not see it as a privilege. I saw it as something that allowed him to do his school work.
The difference is I grew out of it and people with body identity disorder do not and I never ever wanted a disability or have a body part that didn’t work while those people did when they were children and it never went away. It’s not like they also want to have one, they do not choose to feel this way either and I am sure if they could just stop, they would. I doubt they decided one day “Oh cool a wheelchair, I want one of those, I think I will pick a missing leg.”