Plumber won’t be here this Friday

My husband got a call from the plumber and he won’t be in until Monday due to an emergency. So more days in disposables and my son has done good keeping his pants and underwear clean and dry. I know there is always the laundromat. To my husband this is nothing because he has been through worse because he grew up poor. They have went without water and electricity, had to go to laundromats a lot. To me this “nothing” is stressful. I have a lot of clothes so they will last me longer than a week and I can always hand wash and then hang dry them on the towel rack and then throw in the dryer like I did with my diapers. Oh yeah someone told me on Dailydiapers washing adult diapers is a pain because it’s like washing a towel but washing baby diapers is easy because they are so small. They are easy to rinse and wash and less fabric.

Today is hot out so I have the fan blowing. I am sitting here naked in a robe and have a Molicare on and swim bottoms over it and have on socks and slippers watching Dr. Phil while my husband is watching our son and taking care of him. I had him all morning and I was tired and not feeling well. I was having hot flashes due to it being hot out so I turned on the fan, I am having some contractions, my upper legs and buttocks are sore, I am tired due to not enough sleep (sleeping issues), my son whining and not listening, and add that all up, what does that do to me? So finally he took him off my hands after I flipped out about unexpected expenses. My mom told me we were paying for part of the plumbing but she didn’t say anything else about other expenses so I flipped out and got stressed out over money. I felt lied to because of it. I am also on maternity leave and I wanted to do six weeks but I was told to do twelve. I am supposed to get some money every week while on it when the baby comes. I still have the paper for it my doctors need to fill out when it happens.

Ugh, I should keep a bottle of water with me because I keep getting thirsty.

Weird encounter with a stranger

This evening I went for my walk while my husband put our son to bed. I was walking and then some cute man approached me saying “excuse me” and then told me I looked very sexy and he said something else but I couldn’t hear because of the traffic noise. He also asked me if I had posed and I said no and kept on walking. I noticed he said nothing else so I turned and looked and saw he was walking the other way. I thought it was so weird. So he ran up to me just to tell me how good I looked and to ask me if i had posed and then turn the other way.

Then as I was passing by the elementary school that is close to our house, I heard a voice again and it was that same man again in his nice Ford Explorer in the school parking lot. He complimented me again on my body and asked me if I would like to make some money posing and I told him I was not interested. My husband would probably find that as cheating anyway if I did that. He told me he would like to see more of me because I look so hot. I told him maybe there is another woman out there who will be interested and then he apologized for offending me. I wasn’t offended, I just was not interested in posing. He didn’t pressure me or nothing. If he didn’t take no for an answer, I then would have told him I am married and I don’t think my husband would want me doing that.

I don’t know what his intentions were like was he some scout looking for women to pose or was he some predator or could he have been someone who is out looking for a baby to cut from a mother’s stomach for someone. All I know is he could have been hired to do it and I wouldn’t know, or did he want to pay me personally to pose for him? He didn’t even hand me a business card so I have no way of knowing if he is genuine or just some creep looking to pray on someone vulnerable. I know for a fact to never trust a stranger. I wouldn’t even get in a car with one or go somewhere alone with them. He could just be a rapist.

Then I got home and had a cinnamon roll and a turnover my parents bought and went in the basement to ask my husband about posing. I asked him if it would be cheating if I earned money by posing and he said yes. Just as I thought. he asked me why would I want to do that and I told him because we could use some extra money and he said he only wants me for himself and he doesn’t want anyone seeing me naked. He also told me “besides you’re pregnant” and I said “so” and he said they could go all over the internet and I only get paid once for it. I think some pregnant bodies are sexy if the woman is thin and her belly is free of stretch marks.

So it was nice being approached by a guy but I don’t know if he was safe or not and what his intentions were and I was on my walk so I didn’t want to be interrupted anyway and pulled from it and I know my husband would not appreciate me posing for others just as I suspected. I wonder if that guy would have been still interested if he discovered I wore diapers. If he had some agenda like he wanted my baby or wanted to see my body and didn’t really care or he just wanted sex, he wouldn’t care about the diaper.

Washing Diapers

The plumber won’t be here until Friday and it’s not good for the diapers to sit saturated for more than a few days so I had to wash them by hand and it’s time consuming. I first put them in the tub and soaked them in hot water filling the tub up. Then I let the water out and started to wash my pocket diapers one at a time. I used scalding hot water and used laundry soap and put it in the bucket I use as my diaper pail and let it sit for a few minutes. Then I started to rinse it out using warm water and kept on rinsing it until I didn’t see anymore suds. I did the same with the other one too and hung them. Then I emptied the bucket out and put in clean water and put in more laundry soap and put in the soakers next and left them sitting there. Then when the diapers were done dripping and done being soaking wet, I put them in the dryer. Then I washed the soakers next rinsing them out and hanging them up to try using the towel rack in the tub and using the platform thing we use that goes across the tub to keep our son’s toys on. I just lied the soakers across it and then soaked more soakers in the bucket. I did use a long plastic pipe and used it to stir the soakers in it and pushing them down in it to clean them so I am not using my bare hands because the water is so hot. This took me all day to do it and it’s so time consuming. My son kept bothering me and I had to kick him out of the bathroom and then I had a phone call about my health insurance and the lady asked me some questions. I had to put my son in his room and close the door because I couldn’t focus on him and the phone at once and I didn’t want to be yelling at him like I was before while washing the diapers because he was not listening to me. I didn’t want him near the tub or in it because of the diapers and he can open doors now and I don’t know how to lock the door (it’s an old house so the lock is original too) so I couldn’t lock him out. He did eventually listen when I threatened to kick him out of the bathroom if he doesn’t obey me. I don’t see how I would even have time to do with with a new baby so that is why washing them is a pain in the butt. Too time consuming. I did move the soakers to the dryer and hung up the others and then moved them to the basement and washed the other three diapers and hung them to dry. Then I left the last one soaking in the bucket. Then my mom came home and I had to rinse out the last diaper and that took longer because there seemed to be never ending suds and then I hung that diaper up to dry. Now they are still on the towel rack and I will move them to the basement soon to dry them and then no more using cloth diapers until the plumber fixes the pipe i the basement and has hooked up the new laundry sink my dad got.

Washing them is a pain in the butt. I don’t know how mothers did it the before WWII. Diaper services started during that time to save mothers time because they were housewives and took care of their kids and home while their husbands were at war. Then it ended and we kept the diaper services because it made it more convenient for moms. But we have washing machines now so that makes it easier. They had them back during WWII and I used cloth on my son and I still don’t get how time consuming it is to wash them by machine. It takes no more than a few minutes to dump the diapers in the wash and turning it on and putting in the soap. Then you just leave it. It doesn’t take long to rinse out a diaper in the toilet and we used a diaper sprayer to get the mess off. Then I would dump it in the pail. it takes no more than a few seconds to take the diapers out of the wash and putting them in the dryer and letting them dry. You just leave it. I plan on using cloth again with my daughter.

No laundry for a few days

This sucks. I was informed the plumber was going to fix our sink in the basement and he came today but instead he worked on our shower and fixed it. Hopefully the leaking will stop now. I was going to shower but we have to wait for the caulk to dry. I heard the plumber will be back tomorrow or Wednesday so I asked my dad about it because I heard two different things and he said end of this week, Friday. Just great. No cloth diapers and I will just have to rinse them out in the tub tomorrow and try and hand wash them and not wear them until the plumber gets back and fixes the basement. My dad got a new laundry sink because the one we had was cracked and then it stopped draining so we had the water pour on the floor to go down the drain we have that us on the ground. My mom told me last night to not do any laundry because the plumber will be here the next day and my dad says I can still do laundry but my mom doesn’t want any done because she doesn’t like water getting on the floor. It’s back to disposables now for a few days. The only stressful thing about it is my son still won’t poop in the potty but the natural consequence would be he gets no under pants since he dirtied them all and if he dirtied his sleepers and his pajamas bottoms and his other pants and he runs out before the plumber gets here, he has no clean pants to wear. He will be upset about not wearing any pants and not being able to go anywhere but that is what happens when he refused to go in the potty and gets his pants all dirty from it. Plus I have blankets I need to wash because dust and stuff got all over them from when the plumber had to cut open the wall and cut inside there to fix the plumbing. I even just discovered my son’s handmade baby blanket needs washing too but I will toss it in the dirty pile when the plumbing gets fixed. I hate the thought of dirty clothes getting all piled up and we can’t wash them. I could hand wash but it’s too time consuming and we have no dry rack. Who know, maybe this will get my son to poop in the potty instead of holding it after learning he couldn’t wear his big boy underwear and running out of pajama bottoms and sleepers and pants because he got them all dirty. Or I might just get so desperate and do the stinking laundry because the dirty clothes piles are driving me crazy and the fact my wet diapers would be sitting in the pail for a few days which is bad for the diapers. My mom would be at work so how is she going to even know? I would just have to remember to go to the basement to check on it to see if they are done so I can put a new load in.

Oh yeah my dad was going to plant trees and then he remembered he wouldn’t be able to shower so he didn’t get it done.

Parent Martyrdom does not impress me

This is another one of my politically incorrect opinions and unpopular.

I think it’s stupid to not get medical attention because you don’t want to be away from your kids. I read an article here http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2611577/Mother-seven-29-dies-blood-poisoning-just-five-weeks-diagnosed-skin-infection.html

and the 29 year old mother died leaving behind seven children and her husband. Now they are left without a mother and the father is left as a single father. I feel sorry for him and the kids but the thought of parents having to be martyrs and people thinking you have to harm yourself to care for your kids is stupid and when a parent does seek medical help leaving their kids in care of someone else like with their grandparents or friend or neighbor or whoever, that parent gets judged for it. When my husband badly hurt his back, he was not getting better, I was under lot of pressure and wasn’t doing good either so my parents helped us out by coming out here to get him and bringing him back to Montana. Yeah we got judged for that and one man accused us of handing him off to someone until things are better saying you don’t do that as a parent and he said he would cry if he had to be away from his son for a night in the hospital. My mom says to that those people do not love their kids enough. Please note, lot of these people were not parents and only two of them were. So yeah I judge people harshly who play the martyr and neglect their own health just because they don’t want to be away from their kids. But don’t they ever think about their life and if it’s better their kids go without a parent?

So to all the parents out there, if you are in need of medical treatment and you are refusing to go to the hospital because your excuse is you have to take care of your kids and you won’t leave them in care of someone else or even let your partner watch them because you don’t want to be away from them, you’re an idiot. The only exception is if you had no one to help you out so you were forced to neglect your health, then I will feel sorry for you. You judge me for letting my parents come and have our kid for a while, I will judge you for not “handing” your kid off to someone until you are better.

 

 

sometimes I think I am not over my past relationships. Every time something reminds me of my ex, I get these strong feelings again and flashbacks. My husband is the sort of person where when he gets an idea in his head, he has to do it now and it’s hard for me because it reminds me of *Harry. Harry was someone who would get an idea in his head and would have to do it now and not be able to relax so he would keep bothering you until it got done and it would drive me into having anxiety. Mom told me my husband is nothing like him so don’t even compare him to him and I kept saying sorry but every time someone shares the same personalty characteristics as my ex, it brings back memories and I don’t like it. I don’t like being reminded about it. Mom told me we all want to do things now when we get an idea in our head but the difference is we don’t impose it on other people like he did. When my husband wants to do things now, he gives me a warning and he will go grocery shopping alone and ask me to come pick him up and then he calls me to tell me. He tells me all this before it does it so I have time to prepare for it instead of just dumping it on me and I get all stressed out.

Dr. Phil

I love watching that show. I don’t always agree with what he says and he can be harsh because he is not PC but other times he is so understanding and says things that are so right like the time he told Amy and her husband from Kitchen Nightmares about if they keep getting upset about the negative comments posted online, they are winning.

But the show that aired yesterday was about this couple trying to adopt and they were so desperate for a baby, they posted an ad on Craigslist about wanting to adopt and this one lady named Denette contacted them. She was pregnant duet o being raped she said and the rapist was behind bars for it. They kept in touch for months and Denette showed photos to Max and Monica and then she was supposed to fly to their area to have the baby there but instead she went into early labor and had a girl and ended up with twins. The girl weighed nine lbs and the boy weighed only two pounds. My mom knew it was all BS and it didn’t add up. I thought the couple were crazy for spending $40,000 getting ready for their babies. They bought a new house, a new car, bought fancy baby gear, bought a bunch of baby clothes and they had more stuff than I have for my new baby. It was mostly Monica that did it all. I thought they must be rich to afford such a nice nursery and have that big of wardrobe and buying a new home and car but they said they weren’t wealthy. Did they put themselves into debt? Also if they can’t afford an adoption, how on earth could they spend $40,000?

So when she had the twins in the hospital, the rapist got out of jail and wanted custody over them so he was going to court and the babies were held in custody and Monica and Max were still waiting to get them and it had been two months after they were born and they were on the show finally about it.

I did feel sorry for this couple because they were scammed and Denette didn’t ask them for any money and they never sent her any but they did spend their own money getting ready for these babies. I also felt a little sorry for Denette because she had a dysfunctional life so she was lonely and she wanted a friend so she made it all up that she was pregnant. But the lie grew and grew and she didn’t know how to tell them she wasn’t pregnant so she started making up stories like cancer and the daughter having possible autism, having an extra baby, so they wouldn’t want the baby anymore but these couple still wanted to go with the adoption. But but but, if Denette wanted a friend so bad, why didn’t she just join a forum or something? Even Monica said why didn’t she just join Facebook. All this woman said was she was sorry but she acted like it was no big deal what she did. I don’t think she really gets it. The pain she put this couple through and how she got them excited for the baby and then a son that don’t even exist and then to find out they were made up. Sure she didn’t make them spend their money on getting ready for them but she led them on and she had the power to stop it any time and a lot sooner before it got this far. All she had to do was confess saying she made it all up and she isn’t pregnant and she just wanted attention because she is lonely and wants a friend and the couple wouldn’t have wasted all their money and time. I am sure they would have still been disappointed but at least they wouldn’t be hurt and devastated like they had lost their babies and money wouldn’t have been wasted. It took her to get on the show just to confess it and she was angry at them about it. Then she didn’t want Max to yell at her about it and I thought “Are you kidding me?” I just don’t think she gets it and Dr. Phil said she needed help and will give it to her. As for the couple, they will get a baby after all and Dr. Phil will pay for the adoption. Some guy was there in the audience from the Adoption Agency founded in 1959 and he said they will waive the adoption fees and get them a baby for them to adopt. I felt happy for them. I looked on Facebook about the TV show and I don’t agree about Denette should be in jail. She didn’t really break he law because she didn’t involve any money but what she did was abhorrent and not healthy and I thought what she did was very selfish. I also thought it was foolish to try and adopt outside the agency so some people were saying on Facebook they deserved it and it was their fault and others were saying both of them were wrong. I thought Monica went overboard with the baby stuff because they grow so fast so they don’t need so much clothes. They won’t be able to wear half of them because they will outgrow them before they could wear it and that is what happens when parents have so many baby clothes. Yeah they are cute so it can be tempting to keep buying buying buying and what stops me from doing it is money. I already think I have enough newborn and 0-3 month girl clothes so I quit buying them. I can just wash them when I run low on them and will be doing laundry more often. With my son, I had so much baby clothes, I could go a month without washing any and they do go through several outfits a day because they spit up. Most of them were given to me so that was why I had so much. I just made sure he wore a different outfit every day so he could get the chance to wear them them before he grows out of them. I will do the same with my daughter too.

I know how it feels to want a baby so bad and how it feels to lose one because I have had a miscarriage so I can imagine what it must be like to have a stillborn or lose one in the middle of your pregnancy or when the birth mother decides to keep her baby and when you find out the whole adoption thing was a scam. It is like losing a baby when the birth mom decides to keep it or when it was all a scam. I have also seen a movie about a adoption scam thing. This couple was pregnant and they had a one year old with Down’s syndrome and the mother was pregnant. They were putting the baby up for an adoption so this couple who was going to adopt it, they were truly scammed out of money because the couple would ask for money and so the couple who was going to adopt their baby would write them checks to help them out. Then the mother has her baby and the couple arrive at the hotel to pick their baby up only to find them gone. It turns out someone else was going to adopt their baby too and they were also victims of a scam. I forget how the movie goes and it was a movie I saw back in high school. I don’t remember what it was called and I remember the mom’s name was Leanne. They had used their unborn child to get money by pretending to put it up for an adoption. That is why you use agencies than trying to do it personal.